You may know that there are many women out there living in violent relationships. Many of them choose to stay for reasons that only make sense to them. What you may not know is that there are some men who stay in the very same types of relationships. You may think a man would be strong enough to get away and not worried about what a woman would do to them, but you would be wrong. These men live under the same fear as women in the same situation, and they may also think that they have no alternative but to stay where they are. Domestic violence against men is not as common in the media, but it happens all of the time.
We often think of the men in our lives as strong and dependable. They are the ones we rely on to care for us when we cannot take care of ourselves. There is always something nice about a man caring about you, even when you know you can face the world on your own. However, not all men are as secure about who they are, and those are the ones that fall victim to domestic violence against men. They may think they are so in love that they cannot bear to leave, or the woman has convinced a man that no one else would ever want him.
Come to think of this one... how many times have you seen a man on TV complaining about him being a victim of domestic violence? One, two, perhaps none at all. There are many reasons why we haven't seen or heard about them, here's some. Men feel deeply ashamed if anyone knew his wife was abusive towards him. Men are also ashamed for others to know that their woman have so much power over them. Or simply, because they dont want anyone to know. They are ashamed to talk about it, even when they manage to get away.
Domestically abused husbands, just like domestically abused wives, should ask for help and let themselves be heard. Domestic violence is a vicious cycle, and victims of this cycle couldn't be saved, unless the victims themselves take necessary actions to stop it. There are many great resources, organizations and people willing to help victims of domestic violence. The victim must take the first step... seek help that is.
We often think of the men in our lives as strong and dependable. They are the ones we rely on to care for us when we cannot take care of ourselves. There is always something nice about a man caring about you, even when you know you can face the world on your own. However, not all men are as secure about who they are, and those are the ones that fall victim to domestic violence against men. They may think they are so in love that they cannot bear to leave, or the woman has convinced a man that no one else would ever want him.
Come to think of this one... how many times have you seen a man on TV complaining about him being a victim of domestic violence? One, two, perhaps none at all. There are many reasons why we haven't seen or heard about them, here's some. Men feel deeply ashamed if anyone knew his wife was abusive towards him. Men are also ashamed for others to know that their woman have so much power over them. Or simply, because they dont want anyone to know. They are ashamed to talk about it, even when they manage to get away.
Domestically abused husbands, just like domestically abused wives, should ask for help and let themselves be heard. Domestic violence is a vicious cycle, and victims of this cycle couldn't be saved, unless the victims themselves take necessary actions to stop it. There are many great resources, organizations and people willing to help victims of domestic violence. The victim must take the first step... seek help that is.
About the Author:
Valene Mizzelle used to be a victim of domestic violence. Just a year ago, she realized that she must put an end to this vicious cycle, and she did. She's now supporting Ms. Patti Austin's Blue Movement, that aims to break the silence around domestically abused men, which you can also support at http://pattiaustin.com/blue.
No comments:
Post a Comment